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<br />Nakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-27177836170033816062012-05-10T10:12:00.000-04:002012-05-10T10:12:30.919-04:00Making Things Happen<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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A box of tissues was tossed in the center of a circle full of about thirty business owners, wives, fiancés, mothers, daughters, sisters, and friends. We were all there with an <i>idea</i> of what we wanted to achieve during that full-day <span style="color: purple;"><a href="http://makingthingshappen.com/">Making Things Happen</a></span> intensive---well at least I know I did--- but when we left that evening we were all pleasantly surprised by what we had <i>actually</i> achieved.<br />
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I wanted branch away from the normal seminars and conferences I usually attend each year to give me a jolt in business. <i>So,</i> I looked for a woman; who was successfully running multiple businesses <i>and</i> a home---and I found <span style="color: purple;"><a href="http://laracasey.com/blog/">Lara Casey</a></span> and her two great friends <span style="color: purple;"><a href="http://emilyley.com/">Emily</a></span> and <span style="color: purple;"><a href="http://www.ginazeidler.com/">Gina</a></span>--- and because of them I got <i><span style="color: purple;">exactly</span></i> what I needed.<br />
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If I come across as a know it all, it’s because usually I think I know it all. Well, I don’t <i>really</i> think I know it all, but when it comes to my businesses and my main interests I research, I study, and I immerse myself in as much information as possible, so I think I know a whole lot.<br />
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The MTH Intensive not only made it clear to me that there is so much more that I need to know about being a successful business owner (<i><span style="color: purple;">which is why I attended</span></i>), it also became clear that attending seminars, conferences, or intensives that also focuses on being successful, wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, and friends, would make me a successful business person. <span style="color: purple;">Period</span>.<br />
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In my practice, I teach whole-life success. I know for sure--- that <b><span style="color: purple;">in order to be great at <i>anything</i>, you must be at least good at <i>everything</i> that is important to you</span></b>. However, most of the time, I would compartmentalize everything and give the roles of business owner, wife, and parent their own little tidy space in my life to keep them separate and not always equal. I would take off one hat to put on another. <span style="color: purple;">Honestly, all of those wardrobe changes were making me exhausted! </span><br />
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The MTH intensive made me realize that it was time to get rid of those hats, and to embrace <i>each</i> area of my life so that <i>every</i> area can feel supported. I wanted to give my business a jolt, but I actually got a swift jolt in my whole life.<br />
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<span style="color: purple;">Here are a couple of key points I have added to my approach to whole-life success: </span><br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">Strive for progress not perfection</span></b>. When you are responsible for a business, a family, and yourself, perfection can become your biggest distraction. I thought if I couldn’t get something perfect then I shouldn’t do anything at all. At the end of each day I would be left right where I started. I am not always perfect, but I am a work in progress.<br />
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<b><span style="color: purple;">Life is too short not to enjoy every moment.</span></b> By compartmentalizing each area of my life, I was limiting my joyful moments. While working I was thinking about what I had to do with the kids. When with the kids I was thinking about what I had to do at work. I have the pleasure of working from home, so nothing stands in the way of going to give a quick kiss to my kids when a thought of them pops in my head. Embracing those moments instead of thinking about embracing those moments, clears up space in my head so that I can work more effectively.<br />
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I strongly recommend that you find out more about <span style="color: purple;"><a href="http://laracasey.tumblr.com/">Lara Casey</a></span>, <span style="color: purple;"><a href="http://emilyleypaper.com/">Emily Ley</a></span>, and <span style="color: purple;"><a href="http://ginazeidler.com/blog/">Gina Zeidler</a></span><br />
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To Blog...NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-15631236618152581272012-04-26T10:49:00.000-04:002012-04-26T10:49:49.292-04:00The Good Ole' Days<div class="separator" style="border-bottom: medium none; border-left: medium none; border-right: medium none; border-top: medium none; clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<strong><span style="color: purple;"><em>Your past is only relevant to your present if it positions you for your future.</em></span></strong><br />
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For the past 3 weeks, I have been hosting a few clients for my <strong><span style="color: purple;">Get Clear. Get Focused… 5 Week Intensive.</span></strong> We have been strategically tackling clarity and focus killers---taking them down week by week---but this week’s focus seemed a bit challenging for some.<br />
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I explained to the attendees that their past could be clouding their judgment and keeping them from being clear and focused and this is why:<br />
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Your past or your history must be perceived with the intentions of growth and forward thinking if it is to be helpful to your future. This is necessary because if you look to the past and perceive happier and more successful experiences than in your present, if you are not careful, you can become bitter, stuck, and emotionally depleted; which will ultimately cause you to digress instead of progressing.<br />
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Here is a common sense statement of truth that helped them and it could help you:<br />
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<em><span style="color: purple;">If things were are good as you thought they were back in the day, you would have no problem making them good right now.</span></em><br />
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Think about that statement for a moment. The common thread between your past, your present, and your future is <em>YOU</em>. People in your life may have changed or come and gone, you may be in a different place in your life (physically and mentally), and you may not possess the same things you used to possess. But, <em>YOU </em>are still here. And---if <em>YOU</em> were able to attract the people, places, and things that made back in the day so good, <em>YOU</em> should be able to do the same thing now.<br />
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<strong><span style="color: purple;">If you have been bitter, stuck, and emotionally depleted because of your perception of the past, here is your approach:</span></strong><br />
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<strong><span style="color: purple;">Look ahead.</span></strong> I have said this many times before, and I’ll most certainly say it many more times, but this is essential. Looking ahead promotes expectation, right thinking, and positive action. Your future will be as good as you make it. Look ahead for ways to create your good life.<br />
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<span style="color: purple;"><strong>Look for lessons.</strong></span> It is great if you are one of the very few people who only have success stories in your history. I, for one, have failed at some things. And--- those failures are directly responsible for my current---and future success. I have many life lessons to pull from. I find that people learn more from the things they have done wrong, than from what they have done right.<br />
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<strong><span style="color: purple;">Get a grip.</span></strong> Here is some loving truth for you… the good ole’ days weren’t that good. It is impossible to have done all of the right things, had all of the success you can imagine--- in your past---and then live a life that totally sucks today. <strong>IMPOSSIBLE.</strong> Something that you did led you to where you are today. So, you need to look back, grab a hold of whatever lesson you need to learn, and keep it moving. <br />
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Don’t let you past kill your focus. Your past is gone, and all you really have is not today, but this very moment. What you do with this moment will determine how good your future will be. <br />
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To Blog…Nakeia<br />
<br />Nakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-14405192648569338202012-04-19T15:12:00.003-04:002012-04-19T15:16:36.679-04:00Common Sense Is Not So Common<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYNItLR-YQzvpLW-HhoWWo3VWRSO2a91kiLy9sDzNO8K9QlfwjnnhwFG2ZRMtAP0R8QrmVtztsgGaptgqxkd-cWx03I5GECVrJNedihxEdz-0DCsWgEnqg8IQYTPuHXkWFFOpJFaCK8qHz/s1600/common+sense.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 225px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 225px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5733191896930748866" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiYNItLR-YQzvpLW-HhoWWo3VWRSO2a91kiLy9sDzNO8K9QlfwjnnhwFG2ZRMtAP0R8QrmVtztsgGaptgqxkd-cWx03I5GECVrJNedihxEdz-0DCsWgEnqg8IQYTPuHXkWFFOpJFaCK8qHz/s320/common+sense.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Most people do things that make no sense.<br /></span></strong></div><br /><div>They live in houses they can’t afford, stay in relationships that make them miserable, clock in to jobs they hate, eat foods that make them sick, and take whatever life gives them instead of asking for what they want---and probably deserve.<br /></div><br /><div>Now I know that <em>you</em> would never do any of those things, but maybe you can think of a <em>“friend”</em> who does. <br /></div><br /><div><span style="color:#330033;">What if I told you that <em>you</em>, I mean your <em>“friend”</em> could change you whole life by implementing one major principle. You, I mean your friend, could have financial freedom, positive relationships, prosperous careers, good health, and you could start getting everything you want---and deserve out of life, by simply doing what make sense. It’s true, with a healthy dose of common sense, your life can be better---much better.<br /></span></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#330033;">If you want better in life and are not afraid to admit that you don’t always do things that make sense, here is your approach:<br /></span></strong></div><br /><div>Before you approach your next decision, goal, or personal/professional relationship ask your self this questions:<br /></div><br /><div><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>What would make sense, does this make sense, or am I using good ole’ common sense?<br /></strong></span></div><br /><div>Those questions, if applied correctly, and answered honestly can be life changing.<br /></div><br /><div></div><br /><div>To blog…Nakeia </div>Nakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-47725490588438644852012-04-12T09:37:00.003-04:002012-04-12T09:43:11.739-04:00Under, Over, or Does it Really Even Matter?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbYFklqg3p5W9a7n3IcmrRpoLnGusZ6fharZkvCERuvGTkFTQnllInR-IdisBtbi-BttJirv9g6vmJK8Sa7SrwyEdZ1GXkyfMib8H8zMK4klbXnbDdoCu0IePvmLhXhaNJEmBHxAb5hGEj/s1600/toilet+paper.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 225px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 225px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5730508044578634770" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgbYFklqg3p5W9a7n3IcmrRpoLnGusZ6fharZkvCERuvGTkFTQnllInR-IdisBtbi-BttJirv9g6vmJK8Sa7SrwyEdZ1GXkyfMib8H8zMK4klbXnbDdoCu0IePvmLhXhaNJEmBHxAb5hGEj/s320/toilet+paper.jpg" /></a><strong><span style="color:#330033;">The biggest fight my husband and I ever had--- to date--- happened in the second week of our marriage.<br /></span></strong><br />There were many words exchanged…most of which I can’t and probably shouldn’t remember. In short, I am ashamed to say that we almost considered ending our marriage because of an argument over whether the toilet paper roll should be placed on the toilet paper roll holder, in an under or over position. Yes. In that crazy moment in our two week old marriage, we questioned our compatibility because I wanted the toilet paper in the over position and my husband thought he should let the toilet paper roll fall where it may (<em><span style="color:#330033;">he didn’t care if it was under or over and didn’t want to even think about it when it was time to replaced the roll</span></em>). We will be married ten years this year, so let’s just say we got over it.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">Two valuable principles were implemented, in our marriage, from that moment on.<br /></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;">1. In our house, the toilet paper must be in the OVER position---after all the husband didn’t care anyway.<br /></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>2. Focus on what matters.<br /></strong></span><br />It makes no sense to allow the thing s that serve no real purpose---the things that don’t really matter--- in your life, get you out of focus and off balance. Those things, whatever they may be, only serve the as distractions. I am certain that the things that are distracting you right now are much more significant than how to hang the toilet paper roll. Whatever your distractions may be, just ask yourself:<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Does this really matter? Will this make or break my life? Is this worth my time and attention? Is this wasting my time?<br /></span></strong><br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">If you have been out of focus and off balance, and you know it’s because of things that don’t really matter, here is your approach:<br /></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Review your intentions.</span></strong> Whether you are on a mission to fulfill a specific goal, in the middle of an important decision(<em><span style="color:#330033;">like how to hang the toilet paper</span></em>), or contemplating the importance of a relationship, review your intentions or your reasons why you are doing what you are doing and ask yourself is this serving its purpose. Reviewing your intentions will keep you aligned with your purpose and focused on what matters.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Develop hand written or typed and printed action steps.</span></strong> It’s not enough to just say what you want to do. You must have a plan, in the form of step-by-step and decisive actions that you will take each day. Hand writing it or typing and printing it will serve as accountability. As you complete a step you can cross it off. This simple strategy will keep you so focused on what matters, you won’t have time to be distracted.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Ask the necessary questions</span></strong>. Before you act ask the question does this matter. Before a serious discussion, a difficult decision, an action toward a goal, an answered email, or an answered phone call, ask your self:<br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Does this really matter?<br /></span></strong><br />If your answer is yes, this will help me fulfill my goal, make better decisions, improve my relationship, or add value to my life; do it. If your answer is no, this will get me out of focus, off balance, or waste my time; don’t do it.<br /><br />I gave you the example of a crazy argument between me and my husband, which is now a running joke among my family, to illustrate how focusing on the things that serve no real purpose in your life can get you out of focus. But building a marriage, a life of peace and balance, or a business is no joke. It takes strategic planning, decisive action, and a clear focus. You can start by doing what matters!<br /><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-64901372442559522852012-04-05T09:26:00.002-04:002012-04-05T09:33:18.332-04:00No More IFs<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCO_0nZZJ1nTMOhF3nsz-dtN_eHAL7g2heS6T_q6BiM4ay9DULU5ou4B2P5KukZxwL-2ryRkWKAfvwG8fGdjjcQKZJCjZhMXUCnsZSc4-TziLdhmkre6TwGoCKaocuTa-USe2wSLg2aCgx/s1600/shadow.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 267px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 188px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5727907762102950642" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiCO_0nZZJ1nTMOhF3nsz-dtN_eHAL7g2heS6T_q6BiM4ay9DULU5ou4B2P5KukZxwL-2ryRkWKAfvwG8fGdjjcQKZJCjZhMXUCnsZSc4-TziLdhmkre6TwGoCKaocuTa-USe2wSLg2aCgx/s320/shadow.jpg" /></a><em><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>If---if had a shadow, it would look like failure.<br /></strong></span></em><br />Whenever you hear a people speak of their perceived failure, the word if is always present.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">IF I had money…<br />IF I had more time…<br />IF I were younger…<br />IF I had different parents…<br /></span><br />…and those I just the ones I’ve used.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>The one thing that everyone that has ever failed at any time has in common is:<br /><br />They know the reasons why.<br /><br />They believe that the <em>ifs </em>explain away their lack of achievement.<br /></strong></span><br />I understand the temptation to cling to the ifs. It seems as if it shields you from the full implications of failure. But what it actually does is leave you standing in the shadows of what could have been your shinning moments in life.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">IF you had been more persistent…<br />IF you had not given up…<br />IF you had trusted yourself more…<br />IF you came out of the shadow…<br /></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">…what could you have achieved?<br /></span></strong><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>To step out of the shadows and into your success, here is your approach:<br /></strong></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Take the <em>ifs</em> out of your vocabulary.</span></strong> The word if is used to indicate the circumstances that would have to exist in order for something to happen. Sometimes circumstances are uncontrollable conditions. You may not be able to control the circumstance, but you can always control you actions toward it.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Do it anyway!</span></strong> Whenever you feel the temptation to use the word if to explain why you are making a choice not to do something, do it anyway. Leave your explanations in the shadow and demand your shinning moment.<br /><br />If you take the <em>ifs</em> out of your vocabulary, as it pertains to your success, and do what ever it is you need to do, despite the circumstance, you will experience more shinning moments in your life and failure will no longer be an option.<br /><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-5878317003646817782012-03-29T14:04:00.004-04:002012-03-29T14:22:26.703-04:00Get Things Done<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgROLy2w3GqEbw0Kq_cAwFIqc2xmczGBUS_I43NuJuDKE_6Q2TuzkvTll0IPR8L6vwH8hy6XRwmndwANpd0IKn_MOrwyOei8HYpDqJGnrYaneAl84cGxGF-PpFnMwQdGnBanvVvKAnSz1lF/s1600/busy+mom.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 270px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 186px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5725382743189994962" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgROLy2w3GqEbw0Kq_cAwFIqc2xmczGBUS_I43NuJuDKE_6Q2TuzkvTll0IPR8L6vwH8hy6XRwmndwANpd0IKn_MOrwyOei8HYpDqJGnrYaneAl84cGxGF-PpFnMwQdGnBanvVvKAnSz1lF/s320/busy+mom.jpg" /></a>At least twice a week some mommy, some wife, some business owner, some purpose seeker, or some random person will ask me how I find time to get things done. <br /><br />This week in particular, an old friend sent me a <a href="http://www.facebook.com/nakeiachomer">facebook</a> message asking me how many hours a week I worked.<br /><br />The answer is always different, because I have to adjust my schedule, on a moments notice, due to the fact that I am a mommy, a wife, a multi-business owner, a purpose seeker, and sometimes I am very random.<br /><br />There are, however, a few things that always remain the same; and if you are trying to make sense of your schedule and really get things done, here is a great approach:<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Wake up early/Go to bed late.</span></strong> This approach is by far the most important for me and the most difficult <span style="color:#330033;">ALL AT THE SAME TIME</span>. But the bottom line is, if I am going to get anything significant accomplished, I am going to have to do it when no one else is awake. You can decide to wake up early in the morning to work, stay up late to work, or join me in doing both. Just commit to carving out the time you need to get things done.<br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Turn off the television/unplug the phone.</span></strong> I don’t think this needs explaining. But, just in case, it can be explained by answering this question: How much time did you spend watching television and/or on the phone today that could have been spent getting things done? If you have wasted even a second of your life doing either or both of those things, when you could have been getting things done, you know what you need to do.<br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Check-in often.</span></strong> There are three times during my day that I take the time to check in. This is especially important for work at-home-moms and entrepreneurs. When left to our own devices it’s easy to get distracted by everyday occurrences. Checking in with your daily planner will help you stay on task and keep you far from distractions. I check in once my oldest child has left for school, after I have prepared lunch, and once again when everyone has gone to bed.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">These strategies seem simple. But the simple and effective things that most people overlook, is exactly what people who need to get things done <em>need</em> to do. Implementing these three quick strategies, today, will help you get more done than you have all week!<br /></span><br /><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-18532986984162856202012-03-22T14:37:00.005-04:002012-03-22T15:58:09.745-04:00Making My Way Through<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEGmga1e2-M9OSNzWGacKtX53-IvZd7HaInPx_SByhTrn088hq_hBr7P_A6J50TSQDBPIgOa6Yc7YVLFvYE42lmA7kXI9C0mTdv92w7ODYlySjnNH8hhjqRrzE14ysyRraDFUZMRwiOmBz/s1600/other+side.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 133px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5722811924008125170" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjEGmga1e2-M9OSNzWGacKtX53-IvZd7HaInPx_SByhTrn088hq_hBr7P_A6J50TSQDBPIgOa6Yc7YVLFvYE42lmA7kXI9C0mTdv92w7ODYlySjnNH8hhjqRrzE14ysyRraDFUZMRwiOmBz/s200/other+side.jpg" /></a>I am the oldest of 6 siblings. However, I was raised in my home as an only child for most of my life. Let's just say I am no stranger to <em>me time</em> and I value that time very much.<br /><br />Now that I am a wife and mother of two, I can only grab <em>me time</em> if I wake up at 5am.<br /><br />For the past month or so, I have been working through some difficult times. <span style="color:#330033;">Anyone that ever attempts to become a master of their life understands that difficulty is unavoidable. It is impossible to master a skill without putting it through a test.</span> I don’t know about you, but I have rarely met an easy test.<br /><br />I am proud to say that no matter how difficult the times or the test, <span style="color:#330033;">I always win</span>. I spent my <em>me time</em> this morning going over my wins as a means of encouraging myself through this time and here is what I discovered:<br /><br />What makes me a better mentor to those struggling to make sense of their lives, a better mother to my two children, a better wife, a better sister, a better friend, and a better blogger, is my ability to work my way through to the other side.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">You see, if you are facing difficulty or struggle, it is because you are heading in the direction of something that is it’s opposite. The opposite of difficulty is ease. You just have to make your way through. Once you master a skill to the point of ease, the next time you make an attempt at mastery, of any kind, will feel easier and easier.<br /></span><br />If you have been met with difficulty of any kind and need some encouragement as you make your way through, <a href="http://nakeia.blogspot.com/2010/03/from-strengthto-struggle.html">From Strength to Struggle</a> is a great post for you to read today.<br /><br /><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-18947729843017923752012-03-15T13:10:00.004-04:002012-03-15T13:20:46.521-04:00Get What You've Always Wanted<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNAW3ji7Q8-2U5YGeUlXoZ2NeQQPqceHHtfowHTufuTttta6El7aXuaxe5cD1cfmjX5X8mtGm5m2_YJ4VvBurmInKXNIVTIfT6kNUBZEdzyQENLKEF9pRscgOXCvjlTJiFxjkIoMBACPNY/s1600/what+do+you+want.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5720173455565655874" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNAW3ji7Q8-2U5YGeUlXoZ2NeQQPqceHHtfowHTufuTttta6El7aXuaxe5cD1cfmjX5X8mtGm5m2_YJ4VvBurmInKXNIVTIfT6kNUBZEdzyQENLKEF9pRscgOXCvjlTJiFxjkIoMBACPNY/s200/what+do+you+want.jpg" /></a><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>Most people don’t get what they want in life simply because they don’t know what they want.<br /></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;">The most important discoveries you will ever experience in life is:<br /></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;">…Coming into the full realization of who you are.<br />…Uncovering the revelation of what you are here to do<br />…Identifying exactly what you want to experience in life.<br />…Understanding exactly what you need to fulfill your desires.</span><br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>I believe that you only really start living life, when you approach it seeking out those discoveries.</strong></span> If you frequent my blog, <a href="http://twitter.com/nakeiachomer">twitter</a>, or <a href="http://www.facebook.com/nakeiachomer">facebook</a> homes, you know that I teach that approach to motivated men and women who have struggle with achieving specific goals, making better decisions, and cultivating positive relationships.<br /><br />Last week I received an email from a woman who said that she knows that she is supposed to be a business owner, move to a new state, marry and become a mother---all within the next 2 years. Now personally, I believe that can happen---but I wasn’t so sure she did. I asked her what kind of business she wanted to start, and she said she doesn’t know. I asked her what state she wanted to move to, and she said she didn’t know. Finally I asked her if she was in a relationship or had a love interest, and she said not really.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">That type of email is not uncommon. The truth is many---many people simple have no idea what they want. They just know they want something.<br /></span></strong><br />So let me ask you. What do you want…really?<br /><br />Are you in the relationship that you want? Are you living in the house that you want? Are you thriving in the career that you want?<br /><br />If you don’t have what you want and want to change that today, here is your approach:<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Decide what you want.</span></strong> Go back to the days when you and your young friends would talk about what you were going to be in life. Reconnect to your dreams and visions.<br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Look for opportunities to receive.</span></strong> When you make a decision and focus your efforts toward it, you will begin to see things differently. Don’t ignore what you see. Be open to new opportunities<br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Don’t let anyone talk you out of what you want.</span></strong> When you make a decision to undergo a major change in your life, your true supporters will be revealed. Don’t allow those that mean you no good talk you out of seeking what you and getting it.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Don’t settle for less than what you want.</span></strong> Settling is a bad habit that only leads to more settling. The moment you let go of what you want accept what you don’t want, you cut off opportunities effort your success. Simply don’t do it! You deserve to have exactly what you want.<br /><br />Before you can begin to experience the life you deserve, you have to know what you want. Take the time to get to know your self more. By taking this approach, you will begin to see significant changes in your life.<br /><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-33159480544574815672012-03-08T15:26:00.003-05:002012-03-08T15:34:41.316-05:00How Do You See Your Glass?<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLKCCpx3_abeAhXWWTHs8EttMY8iwIMJK7QYh54BMDMh7A8kp7lu_LB0jBLgXlVEnnBN8Sk6Fl1gzi9olsUjKSx1FNd0IwL0Bq0XFtSkZQMjpv2nO0SvV8NXka3jxofid1Xav7yj0wDlF6/s1600/half+empty.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 194px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 260px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5717625397441860162" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLKCCpx3_abeAhXWWTHs8EttMY8iwIMJK7QYh54BMDMh7A8kp7lu_LB0jBLgXlVEnnBN8Sk6Fl1gzi9olsUjKSx1FNd0IwL0Bq0XFtSkZQMjpv2nO0SvV8NXka3jxofid1Xav7yj0wDlF6/s320/half+empty.jpg" /></a><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>Do you see the glass as half empty or half full?<br /></strong></span><br />Before you answer, let me explain the expression.<br /><br /><em>The typical purpose of the question is to demonstrate that the situation may be seen in different ways depending on one's point of view and that there may be opportunity in the situation as well as difficulty. Seeing the glass as half full denotes optimism and half empty denotes pessimism.<br /></em><br /><span style="color:#330033;">In my practice I like to view the expression from a completely different angle.</span> Why? …Because I’m completely different of course.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>When approaching success of any kind, what matters, most, is what you <em>do</em>.</strong></span> You can plan all you want---prepare all you want---affirm all you want--- and be as optimistic as you want--- but if you don’t do something, everyday, towards achieving your desired success, you will continue to stay right where you are.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Some people look at life just being grateful that things are not that bad.</span></strong> These people say things like “<em><span style="color:#330033;">oh well, things could be worse</span>.”</em> You may have also heard these people say something like “<em><span style="color:#330033;">at least I have a job</span></em>” or “<em><span style="color:#330033;">at least my situation isn’t that bad</span>.</em>” These people think they are being optimistic and they view the glass as half full. That view may be very well for someone who likes to live their life in an “<em><span style="color:#330033;">oh well, at least</span></em>” position. These people are content and okay with staying right where they are---because at least their life is halfway successful.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Then there are people that are not content with half of anything.</span></strong> These people say things like “<em><span style="color:#330033;">this is good, but I can make it even better</span></em>.” You may have also heard these people say something like “<span style="color:#330033;"><em>I need a career and not just a job</em></span>” or "<em><span style="color:#330033;">I need to get this situation under control before it gets any worse</span></em>.” These people are also optimistic even though they see the glass as half empty. People who adopt this world view spend their lives doing more and being better---because half just isn’t good enough.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Seeing the glass half empty can work to your advantage when you have a definite goal in mind, because you productively seek opportunities to fill your glass.</span></strong> You use the half way point as your cue to dig deeper and push harder.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">If you are stuck at the half-way point in your life, here is your approach to peaking through your plateau:<br /></span></strong><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>You have been half-full for way too long.</strong> Seek new opportunities to fill your life and you will fulfill your goal. Remain optimistic, but remember that what you consistently do to make things happen in your life will ultimately be the difference between a life that is half empty and half full.<br /></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>Dig deeper and push harder.</strong> When you find your self at the half way mark, that means the hard work of getting started and establishing your system is over and your success id just ahead.<br /></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;">Don’t just be content with where you are; push through to where you want to be.<br /></span><br /><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-18746556034299652092012-02-23T11:24:00.004-05:002012-02-23T11:51:24.074-05:00You Just Don't Want To...<span style="color:#330033;"><strong>You don’t do what you don’t want to do.<br /></strong></span><br />Let me explain. <span style="color:#330033;">Every thing that you have ever said, done, and thought has been because you wanted to say it, do it, or think it.<br /></span><br />You may be thinking:<br /><br /><em><span style="color:#330033;">Well that is obvious.<br /></span></em><br />Unfortunately, that is not so obvious to many.<br /><br />For some reason, people choose to believe someone or something else is responsible for their lives. The fact of the matter is that <span style="color:#330033;">we are all 100% responsible for our own lives</span>. That means every action we have ever taken has been because, ultimately, it was what we wanted to do.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">You don’t do what you don’t want to do.<br /></span></strong><br />If you don’t want to read a book because you want to get some rest, you can’t say you want to read but you are tired. You want to sleep. You don’t want to read.<br /><br />If you don’t want to get up an hour earlier in the morning to work on your business because you need your rest, you can’t say you want to start your own business but you don’t have time. You want to sleep. You don’t want to start a business.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">If you want to create a change in your life, you must be honest with yourself about what you are willing to do.</span> If you are not doing something because you are tired, stressed, scared, busy, or whatever your excuse, replace those excuses with the phrase:<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><em>I don’t want to do it.<br /></em></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">That is the truth.<br /></span></strong><br />It’s totally okay to just admit to not wanting to do something. Taking 100% responsibility for your life is all about getting clear or what you want to do as well as what you don’t want to do.<br />Just know that if you do something, something happens and if you do nothing, nothing happens.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">Here is your approach to replacing your excuses with the truth:<br /></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Replace your excuses with the truth.<br /></span></strong><br /><span style="color:#330033;">Profound!<br /></span><br /><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-20520532807181938472012-02-16T14:21:00.007-05:002012-02-16T14:32:39.595-05:003 Ways to Prepare to Do Your Thing<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhMyan1MxpXONXMVtAq9BfY0c3g2XvNmhIsTklhBIlSlCUbpORYHaq8GKfRIaFNwJu3V9XiGhwwXSY15CXertsHKIqUfOh77uEIPdqzOMWyLqPcdbc_FqRprAPrkoJ0EcrkIh8mUsVd3b7v/s1600/knock.bmp"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 141px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5709817229882149762" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhMyan1MxpXONXMVtAq9BfY0c3g2XvNmhIsTklhBIlSlCUbpORYHaq8GKfRIaFNwJu3V9XiGhwwXSY15CXertsHKIqUfOh77uEIPdqzOMWyLqPcdbc_FqRprAPrkoJ0EcrkIh8mUsVd3b7v/s200/knock.bmp" /></a><em><span style="color:#330033;">Knock. Knock.<br />Who’s there?<br />Opportunity…<br />Oh, no! I’m not ready…I didn’t knock you were coming!<br />Opportunity isn’t always convenient. That is why we must always be prepared.<br /></span></em><br /><br /><div><br /><div>Being prepared means, figuratively, sitting by the window in the front of your house--- with your coat on and your bags packed---just waiting for opportunity to knock--- so you can open the door.</div><br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEim0b0sbTmSgUBirqHlkpkm_w6kFDJDU2kyXLOMloR9mdVOAmZZEuImShMIQR1C4a4sPL7o13pim7POwPrKnQ8zZjRqDYpu2Lrge7QkpdxzEyGCBjxz96Bp18iy9yEgKxSgaeTVadtZomDu/s1600/imagesCAGBPFMY.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 160px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5709816439521654994" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEim0b0sbTmSgUBirqHlkpkm_w6kFDJDU2kyXLOMloR9mdVOAmZZEuImShMIQR1C4a4sPL7o13pim7POwPrKnQ8zZjRqDYpu2Lrge7QkpdxzEyGCBjxz96Bp18iy9yEgKxSgaeTVadtZomDu/s200/imagesCAGBPFMY.jpg" /></a><br /><br /><br /><div><em><span style="color:#330033;">On your Mark<br />Get set<br />Go!</span></em></div><br /><br /><div>Being prepared means, figuratively, being at the starting line, in the runner’s stance---waiting to hear the gun shot, and being in good enough shape to not just start running ---but to be able to finish the race<br /></div><br /><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Being prepared means you are willing, ready, and well able to do your thing at a moments notice.</span></strong> Most people think that they are prepared because they want to do something or are willing to do something.<br /></div><br /><br /><div>I learned this principle from an old mentor years ago:<br /></div><br /><div><em><strong><span style="color:#330033;">It’s not whosoever will, but whosoever CAN.<br /></span></strong></em></div><br /><br /><div>Here is your approach to applying that principle and being prepared to do your thing:<br /></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Get clear on what you are preparing for.<br /></span></strong>In other words, get a clear understanding of what you want to achieve, do, or complete, how to go about it, and exactly how you’re going to get it done. Many people skip the “exactly how”, which is why many people are unprepared.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Prepare to become an expert.<br /></span></strong>Knowledge alone is not power. Being able to practically implement what you know is power. Most people don’t care how you do your thing; they just want to know that you can get it done. That is why being prepared by positioning yourself as an expert is extremely important.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Be prepared to finish.<br /></span></strong>Everyone begins somewhere. But, you can’t stop where you begin. If you are a start up company or approaching a new goal, of any kind, you need to begin with the end in mind. You need to have all of your resources, products, services, execution details, and everything and anything that you may need waiting in the wings. When it’s time for you to grow or move on to the next phase in your process, you need to be prepared to proceed---not trying to figure out what’s next.<br /><br /><em><span style="color:#330033;">Knock. Knock.<br />Who’s there?<br />Opportunity…<br />...Are you Prepared?</span></em></div><br /><div><em><span style="color:#330033;"></span></em></div><br /><div><em><span style="color:#330033;"></span></em></div><br /><div><span style="color:#000000;">To Blog...Nakeia</span></div></div>Nakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-6497596698161874382012-02-09T11:27:00.009-05:002012-02-09T11:47:45.331-05:00Nothing to Loose...Everything to Gain<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMfm1Rjo4O8j8eYaDE2s9B3QCVQjwEYSlT0m2E9vMyFV3ZVq9ON1W4C4vbSxfmlqpVKOZUCW7cOLQuj3A_aKNKRlxbb2_nf-uTjYxxL4TOqPSAiKfOKb0cUf8paPzAF0cN3ytZNRmqnkbZ/s1600/punches.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 259px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 194px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5707176569389557458" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjMfm1Rjo4O8j8eYaDE2s9B3QCVQjwEYSlT0m2E9vMyFV3ZVq9ON1W4C4vbSxfmlqpVKOZUCW7cOLQuj3A_aKNKRlxbb2_nf-uTjYxxL4TOqPSAiKfOKb0cUf8paPzAF0cN3ytZNRmqnkbZ/s320/punches.jpg" /></a><strong><span style="color:#330033;">When you have nothing to loose, you have everything to gain.</span></strong> That is why many people experience their biggest breakthroughs and turn a rounds during the most difficult times in their lives. When you have nothing, your desire to acquire is fueled by your needs. If you are anything like me, when you need something, you do what is necessary to get it.<br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">People who have nothing to loose:</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Take more risks</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Exhaust their resource</span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Roll with the punches</span></strong><br /><span style="color:#330033;"></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;">If you want to experience a complete turn a round in your life, you are going to have to take more risks.</span> You are your greatest investment. And just like all other investments, you need to do the research, consider your options, and go for it. Besides, if you have nothing and you loose, all you can actually loose is NOTHING.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">Your resources are your source of help, your backup, your solution, and your non-conventional commerce</span>. Your talent and gifts will take you places your education may not. Who you know is sometimes more important that what you know. And if you really need a breakthrough in your life, you must ask, seek, and knock. People who have nothing to loose will endure the many no’s just to get to the one yes!<br /><br /><p>People who ask the question…<em>What do I have to loose?</em>… have probably experienced a few punches that have knocked them down. If you have been hit by life more than once, then you know what it’s like to get back up. People who have nothing to loose, take the hits and roll with the punches. In an actual fight, people who have nothing to lose are the scariest to go up against. They have a I’m going to do whatever ever I need to do to win attitude, and it may be the last round, but those kind of people usually when.</p><br /><p><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>Here is Your Approach:</strong></span></p>If you have nothing to loose, you really only have everything to gain. Consider your need---whatever it is---you are going to have to do what you need to do to get it.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Start by taking more risks.</span></strong> You have been held back by fear, doubt, and uncertainty. One thing that’s certain is that if you have nothing, you risk nothing, therefore you loose nothing.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Exhaust your resources.</span></strong> Find other people, other options, and do something different, to get what you want. If what you have been doing was going to work, it would have done so by now. Keep asking, seeking, and knocking.<br /><br />Finally, <strong><span style="color:#330033;">toughen up and roll with the punches</span></strong>. If you know what it’s like to get knocked down, then you know what it’s like to get back up. Develop an I’m going to do whatever ever I need to do to win attitude and keep fighting until the last round!<br /><br /><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-18948086109004763022012-02-02T13:25:00.003-05:002012-02-02T13:31:24.827-05:00Over Night Success<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiBDM4PhCpwjiqFTWjEXqcxZ45io_eQuTxXjsk_2A75crZRwEmQre7G1RSTaDlcoH8eEAERZQ9J8o9zDoA1_Fkm45VrB8O5EqzhuFyULoamddiS0pxNKvHa1ofyz-HmkB-9Z5iIPK9Bmo3Y/s1600/sleepless.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 276px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 183px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5704606475896772034" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiBDM4PhCpwjiqFTWjEXqcxZ45io_eQuTxXjsk_2A75crZRwEmQre7G1RSTaDlcoH8eEAERZQ9J8o9zDoA1_Fkm45VrB8O5EqzhuFyULoamddiS0pxNKvHa1ofyz-HmkB-9Z5iIPK9Bmo3Y/s320/sleepless.jpg" /></a><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Are you willing to loose sleep over it?<br /></span></strong><br />Your job, your career, your hobby, your purpose---are you willing to work so earnestly at mastering it, that you literally sacrifice your sleep to get things done?<br /><br />Some people lie awake all night worrying about their bills, their relationships, and their level of success. Others spend their nights in motion as they plan, develop, and craft their way to their desired level of success.<br /><br />Some people allow their circumstances to completely exhaust them.<br />Others exhaust every resource, opportunity, and connection to change their circumstances.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Achieving significant success is not always an easy task. It requires commitment, revelation, and most importantly---action. <br /></span></strong><br />You may need to work a 9-5 during the day; and work 6-10 on your business and an exit plan at night. If you are like me, you may need to take care of your home and children during the day and then put them to bed and work on your business through the night. You may need to work all week making connections and creating content; and then spend your weekend taking courses that will make you an expert in your field.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">If you are not willing to loose sleep over it, then I am here to tell you, you don’t <em>really</em> want it.<br /></span><br />If you have sacrificed your sleep to study, research, create, and build for the sake of your significant success, these words are for you:<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><em>People don’t become successful overnight, but over night many successful people become.<br /></em></span><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Here’s your approach:<br /><br />If you have questions about what you really want to do with your life, create a list of the things you are doing currently and the things you are considering. Once you have created your list, put a star next to the things you would be willing to sacrifice your weekends, after-work time, and even sleep to master and then put them to the test.<br /></span></strong><br /><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-85126688767748672702012-01-26T13:42:00.002-05:002012-01-26T13:49:49.302-05:00The Uncommon Life<div><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Ordinary just isn’t good enough for me.</span></strong> I don’t know how to be common, unremarkable, usual, or customary. That is why I have always had a hard time fitting in.<br /></div><br /><div>I spent the first half of my life apologizing for standing out in a crowd. I wouldn’t raise my hand in class or seminar when I knew the answer to the question being asked so people wouldn’t think---that I thought---I had all of the answers.<br /></div><br /><div>I would often ease into a room unassumingly as not to call attention to myself; because I was worried people would mistake my happy confidence for apparent superiority.<br /></div><br /><div>Now I am all grown up. Actually, let’s face it, I’m pretty old now---- and I have come to realize that confining myself to an image that will make others comfortable, not only limits me but it is a disservice to those who need me to be authentically me.<br /></div><br /><div>In the industries that I work in, both in entertainment and in personal development, people pay me to be uncommon, stand out in a crowd, have the answers they need, and command a room! Ironic, isn’t it?<br /></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#330033;">People are attracted to authenticity.</span></strong> However uncommon, remarkable, and unusual you may be, if you are shown to be trustworthy and genuine, people will welcome you into their space. In a crowded room, the person who stands out will also be the person everyone wants to meet. In the marketplace the business that is remarkable and unusual will also be the business---with the most---business.<br /></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Many are in search of purpose. People are tired of life as usual. You want to live a bolder, better, UNCOMMON life!<br /></span></strong></div><br /><div>Well, you have my permission to raise your hand, call attention to yourself, and please, by all means, be unapologetically authentic!<br /></div><br /><div><span style="color:#330033;">Here’s your approach to an unordinary---uncommon life:<br /></span></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Get comfortable in your own skin.</span></strong> Being authentically you may make a few others uncomfortable, but that is their issue and not yours. Being naturally confident is not the same as being superior in nature. When you surround yourself with the right people, those people will be confident too and welcome you into their space.<br /></div><br /><div><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Serve others by being who you are.</span></strong> Never forget that someone else is depending on you to succeed. Your confidence, your talents, and your unique purpose have not been entrusted to you---just for you. Embrace the things that make you stand out from the crowd, because one day someone will want to pay you for it.<br /></div><br /><div></div><br /><div>To Blog…Nakeia</div><br /><div></div>Nakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-85627140271048374792012-01-19T14:05:00.003-05:002012-01-19T14:24:57.816-05:00Happy Moments<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUwrHcZ4v7QZMLGstkYOcY56B3MsDNsbbaGZOiZ2iEyHDwNgDRcI4ugohHypJYcxnfAQZEsCf3JUleGEbWJNe4O3Ek7HVkq-G4pH_pcCQMb3OZCUht_XixfSfcx-7KoYo-0fW2_m7IJ7yN/s1600/imagesCAJDFB0B.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 276px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 183px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5699425685896057698" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjUwrHcZ4v7QZMLGstkYOcY56B3MsDNsbbaGZOiZ2iEyHDwNgDRcI4ugohHypJYcxnfAQZEsCf3JUleGEbWJNe4O3Ek7HVkq-G4pH_pcCQMb3OZCUht_XixfSfcx-7KoYo-0fW2_m7IJ7yN/s320/imagesCAJDFB0B.jpg" /></a>I just started a twitter and facebook fan page a couple of weeks and I am far from a savvy tweeter, but I am leaning. If you follow me on twitter <a href="https://twitter.com/#!/NakeiacHomer">@nakeiachomer </a>or if you are a <a href="http://www.facebook.com/pages/Nakeia-C-Homer-Writer-Speaker-Mentor/203070473109580">fan</a> on facebook, then you know that at the end of each day, I ask the question:<br /><br /><br /><div><em><span style="color:#330033;">What was your happiest moment of the day?<br /></span></em></div><br /><br /><div>That question started with me about 3 years ago when I found myself complaining more than usual. I don’t think it’s healthy to complain at all, but at that particular time in my life, every time I opened my mouth it was to complain.<br /></div><br /><div>That complaining went from constant lip service to an actual physical feeling of constant unhappiness. Because complaining is an outward expression of unhappiness or discontent, what I was verbalizing outwardly was just a manifestation of what I was feeling internally. I found myself frowning all of the time and literally waking up and looking for something to complain about.<br /></div><br /><div>I remember receiving a text message from a client asking for some emotional support during a moment of struggle, and ignoring her text. In that moment I said to myself I am not the right person for her to talk to today. Really? If- I- was not- the right-person- for her- to talk to- then- who- was?<br /></div><br /><div>At that moment I sat down and began a list of just 5 things that I was happy about. That list of 5 turned into a list of 25 and before I went to bed that night I asked myself the question:<br /></div><br /><div><span style="color:#330033;">What was your happiest moment of the day?<br /></span></div><br /><br /><div>I have asked myself and my family that question every night since then. In order to come up with an answer every night, I had to search for happy moments sometimes. If I smiled or laughed, if I felt content or satisfied, I would wonder if one of those times would be my moment of complete happiness for the day. Because I wouldn’t allow myself to go to bed without defining a happy moment, I would create one by thinking of a joke so I could laugh out loud or I would go and have a conversation with my 6 year old because she always makes me happy.<br /></div><br /><div><em><span style="color:#330033;">All of the wasted energy I used to complain, I now use to find reasons to be happy. In the midst of a bad day, I make a choice to be happy.<br /></span></em></div><br /><br /><div><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>Here’s your approach:<br /></strong></span></div><br /><br /><div>If you find yourself complaining about the things you are unhappy about, challenge yourself to find just one thing that made you feel happy that day. Make a commitment to yourself not to go to bed without defining a happy moment. It will be hard to find things to complain about when you are looking for reasons to be happy.<br /><br />To Blog…Nakeia</div>Nakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-44695385584319236612012-01-12T14:01:00.003-05:002012-01-12T14:13:22.908-05:00What Were You Thinking?Without a doubt, most of you were excited about the New Year. You were pumped! You were motivated! You were driven---and on the 12th day of the New Year---you have already lost some steam.<br /><br />Now I don’t blame you completely. You have a lot going on. Your bank account has lost more weight than you resolved to. Your biggest supporters are busy supporting themselves. You are doing so much right now, you can hardly keep up---and you feel like if you can just have a moment to catch your breath, you just may be able to catch up.<br /><br />I have one question for you---<span style="color:#330033;">WHAT WERE YOU THINKING!?!<br /></span><br />Actually I know what you were thinking. You were thinking that this year would be your year. You thought you could take it all on at once---and you really thought this time would be the time that you finally did it. BUT---you’re doing too much! Stop trying to do it all and start doing what makes sense.<br /><br />You are only 12 days in, and this time will be the time you do it…<br /><br />…if---you <span style="color:#330033;">Simply Do What Makes Sense™<br /></span><br />If what you are doing to achieve your goal is tiring you out, getting you out of focus, and causing you to second guess yourself, it doesn’t make sense. AND---<strong><span style="color:#330033;">if it doesn’t make sense, don’t do it</span></strong>.<br /><br />I want that to be your theme for the year.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">Here’s your approach:<br /></span><br />Take out your list of resolutions. Now tear it up and throw it away. You don’t need it. <br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhiP6IhvTgWDupk7C71TSvAD1P25Dae1-UkjqcvaXfqa77xxZvCgDONjyDBmrBaFSpYiPMDL-JNA-rkH0FYj7bqOty0YRuK_QWK8hzk1MmBTuO37MEW8fK9B8MVlRfCRm7WjS6Zrh9AZgt1/s1600/imagesCAJO1PTV.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 133px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5696823956869607538" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhiP6IhvTgWDupk7C71TSvAD1P25Dae1-UkjqcvaXfqa77xxZvCgDONjyDBmrBaFSpYiPMDL-JNA-rkH0FYj7bqOty0YRuK_QWK8hzk1MmBTuO37MEW8fK9B8MVlRfCRm7WjS6Zrh9AZgt1/s200/imagesCAJO1PTV.jpg" /></a><br />If writing a list of things could make you successful, you would have accomplished your goals the day you wrote them down.<br /><br />Now close your eyes and get a clear picture of how you want your year to be. Once you see the vision, write it down in vivid detail. Who are you? How do you look? What are you doing? How do you feel?<br /><br />On another sheet of paper, write down your reality in those areas. Who are you now? What do you look like now? What are you doing now? How do you feel now?<br /><br />Your next move is simple. <br /><br />Eliminate one thing every week from your reality, that is not apart of the clear vision you have for your future. If what you are doing, saying, feeling, and living don’t fit the vision; eliminate it---one action, one word, one thought at a time.<br /><br />Make this year your year by simply doing what makes since!<br /><br /><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-69720118354239050072012-01-05T13:33:00.005-05:002012-01-05T13:42:49.937-05:00Not Another New Year Themed Blog<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi8B8E8SZpZ6OblOzUQLtO1IDBamBiBUr6K1dknMofBs6C135vQgR23YPEfemLVN1ZKUbyVs6K0hxbg7M-5_o1KKXobUUjvHPH8Dz_3q4Y6fth7Jd8cIxdDgj76fI274ylubXHqWTH7Ztew/s1600/braces.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 150px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5694218734136695106" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi8B8E8SZpZ6OblOzUQLtO1IDBamBiBUr6K1dknMofBs6C135vQgR23YPEfemLVN1ZKUbyVs6K0hxbg7M-5_o1KKXobUUjvHPH8Dz_3q4Y6fth7Jd8cIxdDgj76fI274ylubXHqWTH7Ztew/s200/braces.jpg" /></a><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>At the top of everyone’s agenda you will find a resolution.</strong></span> I really didn’t want t bore you with another New Year themed blog (and I promise I wont)---<em>BUT</em>---when I walked through the aisles of Wal-Mart seeing nothing but exercise equipment and diet pills---when I turned on the television and saw Jenny Craig, Weight Watcher’s, and The Biggest Loser commercials---I just could help myself.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">Now</span> I have no intention of sharing with you my struggles with weight because, quite honestly, that is none of your business. I will however share another something personal.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">I wore braces for five years.</span> No, my teeth weren’t that hideous. My grand-mom just couldn’t afford the monthly payment plan we were on, so I was forced to wear braces until my aunt stepped in and began to make the payments for me. Don’t feel sorry for me; I got over it--- and let’s just say my teeth are extra straight.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">If</span> you know anything about the process of straightening your teeth with the use of sharp metal wires--- that are woven through metal brackets---that are cemented to your teeth--- and tightened once a month--- to the point of uncomfortable pain--- bare with me as I explain it to those who do not.<br /><br /><em>Technically, the application of brackets or braces moves the teeth as a result of force and pressure on the teeth. This process loosens the tooth and then new bone grows in to support the tooth in its new position which is technically called bone remodeling. Braces have constant pressure, which over time, move teeth into their proper positions. This movement needs to be done slowly otherwise the patient risks losing his or her teeth. This is why braces are commonly worn for approximately two and a half years and adjustments are only made every three or four weeks.<br /></em><br /><span style="color:#330033;">My</span> process was delayed often over the course of five years because when we did not have the monthly payment, we were not able to get the wires adjusted. At the time, I didn’t mind because I didn’t want to endure the uncomfortable process of getting my teeth straightened. I knew I couldn’t keep the braces on forever, but if I could just get by for just a little while longer, I would be ready the next time. Well next time turned into five years!<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">Now</span> I am sure that by now you are wondering how my five years of being known as a brace face will connect to resolutions. Well, I have a gift and I am not so modest about it. I have been gifted with the ability to take common issues of everyday life and create a lesson out of it. Also, as promised that I wouldn’t bore you with another New Year themed blog (and I hope you are not bored.)<br /><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgrcYZnypH-MIYWEfH_0h0C26UAl3EGgQyEvrnvi7j_I_c7twhdJShIevtvXUMCcXSTM9Zw3EYIGRrK1Zk77vSiKX7P2MZvLtC5Pka2B1pWJZocKnlC0dw35-YK_D-DRYc7DlAuzl0jHaK0/s1600/braces.jpg"></a><br /><span style="color:#330033;">So here is the lesson:<br /></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;">Every</span> time you put off doing what you need to do to straighten out your life because of lack of money, discomfort, lack of discipline, or whatever your excuses have been, you delay the process and prolong the amount of time you will lack money, feel discomfort, live an undisciplined life, and whatever else you have been experiencing.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">Get the connection?</span><br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">In this New Year</span>, resolve to simply get it done. Whatever <em>it </em>is for you---get it done! Prevent the delays and prolonged discontent. Don’t live your life just getting by until next year. Or---your next year could turn into five years from now---or even worse--- Never.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">Since this was a lesson, here is your assignment:</span><br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;">Write down</span> at least one thing that you have been delaying year after year. Now simply get it done! You know what you need to do, so do it. Look past your finances, your discomfort, and all of your other excuses and make this year the year you get it done.<br /><br /><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-32850928275177742982011-12-29T11:27:00.005-05:002011-12-29T11:34:15.507-05:00Success Through Failure<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiD5KH37z793OnTdJ1J6xdAbpOTxXgNLI7of1n1HKtxGK0UTUVYcRXQ-hZ6Bq3uRbwPUjocQJQVAswUA579lD_3NYacbctHWydE4qRSd-mAgDsrOPDN_R6J-aiYBTfXpwoBfqgxA-URPC2w/s1600/untitledrr.bmp"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 225px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 224px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5691588054958308098" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiD5KH37z793OnTdJ1J6xdAbpOTxXgNLI7of1n1HKtxGK0UTUVYcRXQ-hZ6Bq3uRbwPUjocQJQVAswUA579lD_3NYacbctHWydE4qRSd-mAgDsrOPDN_R6J-aiYBTfXpwoBfqgxA-URPC2w/s320/untitledrr.bmp" /></a>This will be my last blog post of 2011. By next week, this time, we will be living in a New Year! I am extremely excited to be leaving this year behind and anxious to begin the next chapter of my life. I have worked very productively throughout this year. I have become a new mommy all over again, and despite all of the chaos that had intruded on my plans for the year, I got things done! I accomplished all of the goals I set and helped others do the same.<br /><br />My first blog of 2011 included this statistic:<br /><br /><em><span style="color:#330033;">52% of those who make New Year’s Resolutions are confident that they will succeed. However, by the end of the year, only 12% actually achieve their goals.</span></em><br /><br />In that blog, I asked you to join me in creating actionable plans to secure your place among the 12%. Did you do that? Did you fulfill your resolutions? Are you among the 52% that failed, or are you with me among the 12% who succeeded?<br /><br />If you have failed at your goals for the year--- or have ever failed at any other attempt for that matter--- you are in good company.<br /><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>Henry Ford:</strong></span> Before Ford was tough, he was broke! His early businesses failed, leaving him broke five times before succeeding.<br /><span style="color:#330033;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>R. H. Macy:</strong></span> Had 7 failed business before the success of the Macy’s department store we know and love today.<br /><span style="color:#330033;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="color:#330033;"><strong>Bill Gates:</strong></span> Before Microsoft there was Traf-O-Data, his first failed business.<br />Albert Einstein: From a slow to speak, read, and finish school kind of guy to a Nobel Prize Winning father of modern physics.<br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Soichiro Honda:</span></strong> Turned down by Toyota Motor Corp. for a job before building the billion dollar Honda of today.<br /><br /><em>Remember, you only have to succeed the last time. ~Brian Tracy<br /></em><br />There is no shame in failing if failure is followed by success.<br />Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and try again!<br />2012 here we come!<br /><br /><br /><em><span style="font-size:85%;">What were your successes in 2011? What did you fail to accomplish? What are your plans for 2012? </span></em><br /><em><span style="font-size:85%;"></span></em><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">To Blog...Nakeia</span>Nakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-47072851857573237232011-12-22T09:54:00.009-05:002011-12-26T22:52:55.741-05:00Do Your Thing!As a song writer <em>“I put myself out there”</em> in a big way. I expose myself to criticism and rejection, but I also expose myself critical acclaim and acceptance. I do the same thing as speaker and mentor. I have content that I know I have been put on earth to deliver, but sometimes I feel unsure that everyone else will get it. But I do it anyway. I write the songs---I write the blogs---I submit the articles---I delver the content---I expose myself---I put myself out there in a big way. I do my thing!<br /><br />If you want the acclaim, if you want the acceptance, and if you just want to be able to authentically do what you were born to do, you must put yourself out there. You can not be afraid of the criticism and rejection. You must do your thing no matter what!<br /><br />I got over my fears of criticism and rejection when I realized one important principle in life.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">My life is not my own.<br /></span></strong><br />I share my life with my family, neighbors, community, city, state, country, earth, and something even greater than all of that---the INTERNET! What I do not only affects me, but it affects all of those people, places, and things as well--- and out of all of those people, places, and things, someone needs to hear of my mistakes so they don’t make the same ones. Someone else needs to hear of my achievements so they gain hope of the possible achievements they can experience.<br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Your life is not your own.<br /></span></strong><br />Someone not only wants what you have, they need it. Your ability to write, speak, sing, teach, lawyer, build, dance, organize, administer, or whatever it is that YOU do, is your<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjf7BCZVleu22Q2nThqfeV2IM_9truWHrttADeAhXP4sunaiZjNjL9yhoRj3FUL_PIOug883HytIAy4LOyt800h-UH2hwZH_HYfdbDtvSYDsoI9ML_9B-mh1Z3UEvlSCXu5oejx5mg8SAO9/s1600/webpic.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 300px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5688966519094690770" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjf7BCZVleu22Q2nThqfeV2IM_9truWHrttADeAhXP4sunaiZjNjL9yhoRj3FUL_PIOug883HytIAy4LOyt800h-UH2hwZH_HYfdbDtvSYDsoI9ML_9B-mh1Z3UEvlSCXu5oejx5mg8SAO9/s400/webpic.jpg" /></a> gift to the world---it’s your purpose. Whether you reach many or you reach few, it's your obligation to share your gift in a big way. You are obligated to DO YOUR THING!<br /><br />Once again I am putting myself out there and doing my thing. I have decided to merge this blog with my business of speaking and mentoring! I will continue to blog, however starting in January you will find my blog at www.nakeiachomer.com. The site is under construction at the moment so please be on the lookout for updates.<br /><br /><span style="font-size:85%;color:#330033;"><em></em></span><br /><span style="font-size:85%;color:#330033;"><em></em></span><br /><span style="font-size:85%;color:#330033;"><em>What is your gift? Do you use it to serve others? What will you do today to put yourself out there in a big way?<br /></em></span><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-54004302395479912362011-12-15T13:35:00.004-05:002011-12-15T13:51:57.810-05:00Dream Protection Program<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWXV-fGXI4_2SFOxFGjmKqZWLdsXq1Fz9_7o4K9vIXomxmRDLYiZP8s01S4TPnYmto0SWD5nXxvYmD45AohyFqoRffOzk7ZCFKoip8NUoGV0EZv_wnXcjpNndbdpoAZd4eJv_8icKSIjvC/s1600/imagesCAV146ND.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 150px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5686426256527812642" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjWXV-fGXI4_2SFOxFGjmKqZWLdsXq1Fz9_7o4K9vIXomxmRDLYiZP8s01S4TPnYmto0SWD5nXxvYmD45AohyFqoRffOzk7ZCFKoip8NUoGV0EZv_wnXcjpNndbdpoAZd4eJv_8icKSIjvC/s200/imagesCAV146ND.jpg" /></a><br />I have probably shared this with you before--- but there is one phrase I distinctively remember hearing from my grandmom as a child. I had big hopes, big ideas, and BIG DREAMS for my life and whenever I would share them with my grandmom, she would say “I hope you get everything you want in life.” Now when she said that I knew she didn’t really think it would happen. She was doing her best to be supportive, but the tone of her voice said it all. I think she thought my big dreams were too big for my reality. If you ask her about it, she may have a different take on that phrase but this is my story and I’m sticking to it.<br /><br />As a mother of a six year old daughter, I now have the privilege of hearing her BIG DREAMS. When she shares her hopes, ideas and big dreams with me, I make it a point to sound as excited as I feel about my own dreams when I respond to hers. She wants to become a doctor and discover a cure for cancer and I don’t doubt for a second that she can do it! I want her to feel free to dream as big as she possibly can and as her mother I have the responsibility of protecting her dreams until she can protect them herself. I remind her of them when she doesn’t feel like doing her home work. I buy her toys for budding doctors and play “doctor and patient” with her. Last month, I caught her doodling Dr. Kai in her note and I almost cried!<br /><br />Protecting your dream is a must! It seems simple enough but sometimes our reality makes it difficult for us to reconcile our dreams with what we actually see in our lives everyday. We have to learn to shield our dreams from delays, denials, and detours. We have to make our dreams “NO” proof. We even have to protect our dreams against self-doubt, self-sabotage, and self-imposed limits.<br /><br />I have spoken with many people who suffered through 2011. Houses were repossessed. Businesses were closed. Marriages were ended. Careers were ruined. Your dream can be the remnant of all of that chaos. When the dust settles your dream can still be standing. All you need is a cause and a plan!<br /><br />Here are three quick things you can implement today to protect your dream:<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Meditate on it.</span></strong> Make it the first thing you think of in the morning and the last thing you think of at night. What you make a priority in your mind because a reality in your life.<br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;"></span></strong><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Speak highly of it.</span></strong> The worst thing you can do is belittle your dream. Write it out on a piece of paper and frame it. Make it the visual focal point f your office, bedroom, or car dashboard.<br /><br /><strong><span style="color:#330033;"></span></strong><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Act on it.</span></strong> Take daily action toward making your dream a reality. Spend 30 minutes each day doing something concerning it. You can enroll in a course that will help you become an expert at it.<br /><br />Whatever you do, keep the dream alive! Big Dreamers experience BIG Lives!<br /><br />I also wrote about dreams <a href="http://nakeia.blogspot.com/2010/09/dream-awake.html">here</a> and <a href="http://nakeia.blogspot.com/2010/07/dreams-shoes-and-reality.html">here</a>.<br /><br /><span style="font-size:85%;color:#330033;">What dream have you failed to protect? What will you start doing, today, to protect it? How can I help?<br /></span><br /><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-64480346122707901002011-12-08T14:25:00.003-05:002011-12-08T14:36:45.061-05:00Something Different for the New YearLast year this time I was working with <em><a href="http://nakeia.blogspot.com/2010/11/on-her-own.html">Stacy</a></em>. She was chosen to be apart of my<a href="http://nakeia.blogspot.com/2010/08/special-offer.html"> Leave 2010 with No Regrets</a> program. Her goal was to end 2010 living with her purpose in mind and intention as her driving force. I must say, Stacy came a long way. She had to work through some serious issues to get to the core of what she really wanted for her life, but she did that--- and some. She even enlisted a few of her friends and started a group that I have had the pleasure of facilitating throughout this year. We titled the group Purpose Seekers (<em>very original, right.?).<br /></em><br />Anyway, it was my pleasure to work with Stacy and her group this year and I look forward to working with them in 2012. Go Stacy!<br /><br />I’ve decided to do something different this year. Instead of mentoring someone through ending the year strong, I have decided to share with you how I spent 2011 achieving a huge goal of my own. This idea came about after meeting many men and women this year with huge ideas and huge goals but absolutely nothing to show for it. I met a man who ran a multi-million dollar real estate company that went under with the economy. He had an idea for a book on how to survive the housing crisis. I met a women who has successfully self-published five books. She had an idea to host a few workshops on how to successfully self-publish a book. I could tell you more stories about more people with more ideas, but I think you get the point.<br /><br />Here’s the thing, having huge ideas that you are able to brag about at networking events isn’t enough. I don’t want to hear about what you want to do. I want to see what you are doing. There are some people with well intended ideas and goals, including myself, but if you don’t do something about it, all you will ever have is your idea or goal and not a success story. I use to say <em>intention</em> is everything. However, this year I realized that <em>intentional action</em> is everything.<br /><br />So, with all of that in mind I have decided to share with you the action I took, in 2011, to take my idea for this blog and expand my business by turning it into programs designed to help motivated men, women, teens, find significant success through simple common sense strategies and systems. Now my goal was a professional one, but I was only able to achieve it by working through some personal issues of my own and following a strategic personal development approach.<br /><br />I am excited to share so stay tuned…<br /><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">What goal did you achieve in 2011? What are your intentions for 2012?<br /></span><br />To Blog… NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-31347714868984806672011-12-01T12:09:00.008-05:002011-12-01T12:22:15.153-05:00Praise for the BFF<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhOlr7aK9kOPj3F5gzVwhkxc2hpu4vVWbD39M5WBmTfghpGgYqMDPFaUjC32_RPCHtjlhhlTKroOccEBdQwVIQPpbjH9OSTRts2ZRJM_xhKou35o0pEUxWd4-G3sLKTBVuhcqcKmuR3y8cc/s1600/bff.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 200px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 200px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5681210929978880210" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhOlr7aK9kOPj3F5gzVwhkxc2hpu4vVWbD39M5WBmTfghpGgYqMDPFaUjC32_RPCHtjlhhlTKroOccEBdQwVIQPpbjH9OSTRts2ZRJM_xhKou35o0pEUxWd4-G3sLKTBVuhcqcKmuR3y8cc/s200/bff.jpg" /></a>I had the chance to spend a few hours away from my new <a href="http://nakeia.blogspot.com/2011/11/when-all-else-fails.html">Lil’ Mister</a> last weekend. My BFF (<em><span style="color:#330033;">yes, some people over the age of 30 still refer to their life-long friends as BFF’s</span></em>) picked me up and we shopped, talked, and laughed a little. It was great! We have known each other since we were 10 years old and even though we don’t speak everyday---or every week, I can always count on her for honesty, support, and some good old girl talk. And if you know anything about me or my blog, it should not surprise you to hear that I even managed to squeeze in a bit of personal development.<br /><br />You see, she had recently achieved a major personal accomplishment without even realizing it. After hearing about it I immediately began to celebrate with her and by me celebrating her, it seemed as if she felt a sense of permission to celebrate herself.<br /><br />It was great! It was also enlightening. I realized two things:<br /><br /><br /><ol><br /><li><strong><span style="color:#330033;">Adults need praise too.</span></strong> As a mother of two, praise has been on autopilot in our home for years. Whenever my daughter---and now my son does something new, wonderful, unique, or just plain cute. We praise them with rewards, compliments, kisses, and hugs. They feel validated and worthy. It also cultivates positive behavior and increases the chances of them doing something praise worthy in the future. The same actually applies to adults. As an administrator, I often used praise to encourage a positive and productive work- flow among my employees. I use it now with my clients and as a speaker and mentor. However, I didn’t always pay as much attention to the celebration I gave my friends and family. Of course I am very liberal with my <em>“good job(s)”</em> and <em>“you look nice(s)”,</em> but to actually take a genuine moment to truly acknowledge the accomplishments of a friend---right on the spot---with a good old celebration is something all together special. When we celebrate others, we also give them the encouragement they need to celebrate themselves.<br /></li><strong><span style="color:#330033;"></span></strong><br /><li><strong><span style="color:#330033;">I need more girls’-day- outings!</span></strong> Shopping, laughing, and some girl (or guy) talk is a must do. </li></ol>I encourage you to encourage a friend. Find a reason to celebrate your loved ones, employees, and clients. Your praise could be the thing that pushes them to find significant success.<br /><br /><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">How do you respond to praise? When was the last time you celebrated with a friend? Who, in your life, deserves a celebration?<br /></span><br />To Blog…NakeiaNakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-2785418064094353462011-11-17T10:33:00.007-05:002011-11-17T11:09:26.771-05:00Blogging, Bantar, and Newness...<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhj8Z0DnmmSqvbE1rMAJbjhgBcyjDd6Q6dUyEudYxWAJG6Vag0bf7y08ut-PCa0FgzSjpb1AgOvKRPjdodnrKx8uFSrqHANoEAIZQsKX7EaL9UvcvdMFcBCI3vrMx0p15dYMy-D9ffk2_z0/s1600/teacher.bmp"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 237px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 213px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5675997232727025042" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhj8Z0DnmmSqvbE1rMAJbjhgBcyjDd6Q6dUyEudYxWAJG6Vag0bf7y08ut-PCa0FgzSjpb1AgOvKRPjdodnrKx8uFSrqHANoEAIZQsKX7EaL9UvcvdMFcBCI3vrMx0p15dYMy-D9ffk2_z0/s320/teacher.bmp" /></a>I am excited to have finally released the <em><a href="http://nakeia.blogspot.com/2011/07/pressing-pause.html">pause</a></em> button! Last Thursday was my first day back to the world of blogging---and do I have a lot to say or do I have a lot to say?!.<br /><br /><div><em><span style="color:#330033;"></span></em></div><br /><div><em><span style="color:#330033;">First</span></em>, let me say that my high school english teacher would be horrified to read my blogs. While I was away, I actually read through all of the blogs I have written and came to the realization that I need to re-visit English 101. I have always had a bad habit of not proof reading my work. Most of the time I get someone else to do that for me, but I didn't think I needed to do that for the blog. I usually write as I think and think as I write---which actually helps me as a song writer, but not so much as a blogger. So, you will be pleased to know that I will be proof reading my work from now on.</div><br /><br /><div><em><span style="color:#330033;">Second</span></em>, I must also say that among my grammaticlly incorrect, typo filled, and sometimes bantaring blogs, I have some great tips, stories, and how-to's in my <em>blog</em> library. I even managed to encourage, mentor, and make my self laugh while reading through the past 177 blogs. So, when you get a moment, I suggest you take a look through the archives.</div><br /><br /><div><em><span style="color:#330033;">Third</span></em>---and last <em>for now</em>---I am excited about the <em>newness</em> I have experienced in my personal and professional life and I can't wait to share it with you! I will continue to blog every Thursday until the end of the year---and---starting in January, I will go back to blogging everyday.</div><br /><br /><br /><div></div><br /><div><span style="font-size:85%;color:#330033;">P.S. I will proof read starting with next week's blog.</span></div><br /><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div>To Blog...<br /></div><br /><div>Nakeia</div>Nakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4467046887373925580.post-76948744517504304052011-11-10T12:58:00.008-05:002011-11-10T14:15:54.263-05:00When All Else Fails...Nothing in this world could have prepared me for this...<br /><br /><br /><br /><div><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvfFPtmdjrHdq3MW1D3Mn-3-zsASUkLoe2txdlkCfOsdziBwbbjO_c48STah5RBjVjIVSGs8WqPtNeltlzx5rWqeOWZH-pAo-V8v9_9gl20g13tkoJ-ZUISQ1vgwuoi2EFoe0D2eahLngI/s1600/chasenicu.JPG"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 214px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5673428903463665474" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgvfFPtmdjrHdq3MW1D3Mn-3-zsASUkLoe2txdlkCfOsdziBwbbjO_c48STah5RBjVjIVSGs8WqPtNeltlzx5rWqeOWZH-pAo-V8v9_9gl20g13tkoJ-ZUISQ1vgwuoi2EFoe0D2eahLngI/s320/chasenicu.JPG" /></a></div><br /><div>Not even <a href="http://nakeia.blogspot.com/2011/07/prepare-for-best.html">this</a> blog I wrote 3 weeks before delivering my son <span style="color:#330033;">Chase</span> (whom I affectionately call <em><span style="color:#330033;">Lil' Mister</span></em>). I was prepared to welcome my healthy baby boy into this world, armed with my camera, cell phone (So my family back home can listen in), and the cutest new born outfit I could find. I was eager to change his diaper, bath him, comb his hair and coddle him for the first time. I was looking forward to seeing what his first night in this new world would be like for him. I wanted to experience the first times he closed his eyes for the night and opened them to welcome in the next day. I was looking forward to the moment I could introduce him to his big sister--- witnessing the look on her face as she walked into our hospital room and saw me holding her little brother. I was looking forward to walking him out of the hospital doors <em>after 2 days</em> and into the house we had just moved in to (because we needed to make room for him).</div><br /><br /><div><em>Yet</em> instead of the perfect scene I had imagined and prepared for, My son was whisked away from me and his father---minutes after he was born---and rushed to the NICU (Neo-Natal Intensive Care Unit) where he stayed for 14 days, 19 hours, and 30 minutes. We were only permitted to interact with him for 1hour a few times a day...</div><br /><br /><div>A nurse changed his diaper, bathed him, combed his hair, and coddled him for the first time. I missed seeing his eyes close for the night and open the next morning. Total strangers spent the night with my son, while I sat, with my husband, in a lonely hospital room questioning every move I had made during my pregnancy, every lie I ever told, every person I ever offended, and every night I forgot to say a prayer before bed.</div><br /><br /><div>On day 6, as I walked out of the hospital leaving my baby in the care of doctors, nurses, and other staff, I felt horrified, guilty, empty, and strongly aware of the fact that <em>there are some things that I just can't prepare for</em>. </div><br /><br /><div>When we are faced with those <em>things</em>, we must replace preparation with faith. I wasn't prepared for my son to enter into this world under such unimaginable conditions, but my faith assured me that things would turn out just as they should---and they did. My Lil' Mister is healthy, happy, and <em><span style="color:#330033;">ALWAYS </span></em>hungry! </div><br /><div></div><br /><div>...<em><span style="color:#330033;">When all else fails, have faith.</span></em></div><br /><div><em><span style="color:#330033;"></span></em></div><br /><div><em><span style="color:#330033;"></span></em></div><br /><div><em><span style="font-size:85%;color:#330033;">What have you been unprepared for lately? What have you needed to have fath in? How have you handled recent unimaginable conditions?</span></em></div><br /><div><em><span style="color:#330033;"></span></em></div><br /><div><em><span style="color:#330033;"></span></em></div><br /><div><span style="color:#000000;">To Blog...</span></div><br /><div><span style="color:#000000;">Nakeia</span></div><br /><br /><div></div><br /><br /><div></div>Nakeiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15743031225952417884noreply@blogger.com2