Your past is only relevant to your present if it positions you for your future.
For the past 3 weeks, I have been hosting a few clients for my Get Clear. Get Focused… 5 Week Intensive. We have been strategically tackling clarity and focus killers---taking them down week by week---but this week’s focus seemed a bit challenging for some.
I explained to the attendees that their past could be clouding their judgment and keeping them from being clear and focused and this is why:
Your past or your history must be perceived with the intentions of growth and forward thinking if it is to be helpful to your future. This is necessary because if you look to the past and perceive happier and more successful experiences than in your present, if you are not careful, you can become bitter, stuck, and emotionally depleted; which will ultimately cause you to digress instead of progressing.
Here is a common sense statement of truth that helped them and it could help you:
If things were are good as you thought they were back in the day, you would have no problem making them good right now.
Think about that statement for a moment. The common thread between your past, your present, and your future is YOU. People in your life may have changed or come and gone, you may be in a different place in your life (physically and mentally), and you may not possess the same things you used to possess. But, YOU are still here. And---if YOU were able to attract the people, places, and things that made back in the day so good, YOU should be able to do the same thing now.
If you have been bitter, stuck, and emotionally depleted because of your perception of the past, here is your approach:
Look ahead. I have said this many times before, and I’ll most certainly say it many more times, but this is essential. Looking ahead promotes expectation, right thinking, and positive action. Your future will be as good as you make it. Look ahead for ways to create your good life.
Look for lessons. It is great if you are one of the very few people who only have success stories in your history. I, for one, have failed at some things. And--- those failures are directly responsible for my current---and future success. I have many life lessons to pull from. I find that people learn more from the things they have done wrong, than from what they have done right.
Get a grip. Here is some loving truth for you… the good ole’ days weren’t that good. It is impossible to have done all of the right things, had all of the success you can imagine--- in your past---and then live a life that totally sucks today. IMPOSSIBLE. Something that you did led you to where you are today. So, you need to look back, grab a hold of whatever lesson you need to learn, and keep it moving.
Don’t let you past kill your focus. Your past is gone, and all you really have is not today, but this very moment. What you do with this moment will determine how good your future will be.