Thursday, March 31, 2011

Show Me A Sign

Confession… I am a show me a sign kind of girl. In the past… I used to pray to God for a sign before I would make a major decision. I would say God, if this is something I should do, let it rain at 12:30pm. Or…God, if I should go on this trip, let my ticket be free somehow. Let’s just say, it would never rain at 12:30pm, and I have yet to receive free airline tickets in the mail. Now… I continue to pray to God before a major decision. However, my prayer is… God, let my eyes be open to what my life is trying to show me. And…God, let my ears be in tune with what my heart is trying to say. There are signs everywhere. Even when I don’t ask, life speaks. If you follow my blog regularly, you might remember the lesson my grandmom’s Mac & Cheese has taught me. Here’s the thing, there is nothing wrong with wanting a sign. But for some the, the obvious is never obvious. Don’t ignore the small signs while looking for the miracle. Your life speaks to you daily. Losing your breath while running up the small flight of stairs in your home; is a sign that you need to exercise. If you keep asking your why does this keep happening to me, that is a sign that you need to change your pattern of behavior. Allow every opportunity, every misstep, and every turn of event to speak to you. There is a lesson in living! What obvious sign have you ignored lately? How much different would your life be if you looked a past mistake as a lesson? What has your life already said to you today? To Blog…Nakeia

Thursday, March 24, 2011

What Do You Want?!

If you were to wake up tomorrow morning able to live your ideal life, what would your life look like? What would you be doing? Who would be with you? Where would you live? Would you start a new career? Would you be promoted on your current job? Would you be married? Would you be single?

Most people do not get what they want in life simply because they don’t know what they want.

Opportunity does not call to say it’s on its way. So when it comes knocking on your door, you must be prepared to open it. When you know what you want, you are not only preparing to open the door for opportunity, you are sending opportunity a personal invitation and laying out the welcome mat!

Start by making an I Want List. Go through every area of your life, from health and wealth, to love, and recreation. Decide what you want in detail. Once your list is complete, review it daily. Make your I Want List apart of your daily affirmations. Reviewing your list and affirming what you want, every day, will establish a pattern that will lead to the belief that you can have exactly what you want in life. Believing you can have it will ultimately lead you to take action toward achieving it. Finally, your intentional actions will lead you to expect it.

So, I ask you again. If you were to wake up tomorrow morning able to live your ideal life, what would your life look like?

To Blog…Nakiea

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Born Fearless

We are born fearless. We know what we want and are not afraid to ask for it. Through screams and tears we demand to be fed, changed, and held. As we grow independently mobile, we climb up stairs without hesitation, crawl or walk over to other children and take the toys we want for ourselves, and when we didn’t want something we made it known by introducing tantrums into the mix.

Then as toddlers we get hit with our first no. We are told that we can’t climb stairs at will and safety gates go up around the house. We are forced to share toys that we’d rather keep for ourselves and time-outs are established to counter the tantrums.

As we get older and grow into adulthood we learn to want less. Most often what we want out of life gets determined by what we think we can have. Tantrums, screams and tears are no longer an acceptable way to obtain the things we desire. Going up to someone and taking what we want for ourselves will undoubtedly be met with jail time. Slowly but surely we learn that just because we want something, doesn’t mean we will get it. Our wants get met with inhibitions. Our deepest desires are met with fear.

Yes, we were born fearless, but somewhere along the way, we learn to accept fear as a part of life and we become afraid to ask for what we want in life.

Well guess what? The safety gates have been removed, time-outs are for kids, and no does not mean never! You can have what you want! The life that you truly want is waiting for you to walk up to it and take it. (You will not be jailed for that) But in order to get what you want, you must be fearless. You can no longer accept fear as a part of life. You must be the fearless person you were born to be!

Do you think that fear has been holding you back? What do you fear the most? Do you know what you want out of life?

To Blog…Nakeia

Thursday, March 10, 2011

What I Know For Sure.

Ask anyone who knows me, and they will tell you that there are VERY FEW times when they have found me to be speechless, hesitant, and ready to just give up. Since I began my journey of personal development at the age of ten, I make it a point to look at life as a giant classroom. I believe that everything that happens to me, good and bad, is all apart of a master plan to assist me in achieving my goal to live a life that is balanced, lacking nothing, and whole (mind, body, and soul).

Along the way, I have been faced with difficulties. Some difficulties I was born into and some were self inflicted. Nevertheless, I continued to move forward. So this week, when faced with the question what do you do when you have done everything that you know to do and still everything goes wrong, I found myself speechless and hesitant to try and come up with a clear answer…for a brief moment.

Here is what I know for sure. Life is a series of circumstances that are followed by responses which lead to particular outcomes. In other words, things happen---sometimes good things and sometimes bad things. How we respond when those things happen is what will determine the outcome.

I dissected the question what do you do when you have done everything that you know to do and still everything goes wrong and here is what I discovered:

Sometimes what we know to do is the problem. Sometimes we don’t know enough or have enough experience in a particular area to get the outcome we want. Ultimately, sometimes we respond the wrong way, therefore we usher in the wrong outcome. Instead of focusing on your current circumstances, try focusing on your response. But before you respond, ask yourself if you know enough to respond in way that will give you the outcome you desire.

Here are 2 quick tips that will help you increase what you know:

Find someone that has overcome the difficult circumstance that you face and ask them how they did it. If you can’t find someone that you know personally, go pick up an autobiography from the library or bookstore.

Before you decide on a response to a difficult circumstance, run your idea by a good friend and ask for his/her incite. Even though that person may not have experienced the same thing, he/she may be able to offer an objective solution; or at least tell you if your idea is a good one or not.

What do you know for sure? Are you currently facing a difficult circumstance? How will you handle it?

To Blog…Nakeia

Thursday, March 3, 2011


Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. ~ Albert Einstein

Have you complained about the way you look lately? Have you complained about your personal relationship? Have you complained about your lack of business opportunities? Are you tired of the same old, same old?

Well today I want to challenge you to do something different. It is truly insane to complain about the things you have the power to change. Now I don’t mean to call you crazy--- well actually, yes I do. But don’t worry, you are not alone. At the top of my list of goals for this year, I have committed to actively doing something to change everything that I complained about in 2010. I…yes, even I would climb aboard the insane train from time to time. And then one day I realized just how crazy it was to do the same thing over and over again while expecting the results to be different.

I wanted more. I expected more. I even visualized myself experiencing more. All the while, I was doing the exact same things I did to have less. Now, does that make sense?

I think Jack Canfield makes my point in his book The Success Principles, when he says if what you are currently doing would produce the more and better that you are seeking in life, the more and better would have already shown up!

If you truly desire more and better, you are going to have to do more and better.

You can start like I did. Stop the insanity by committing to do at least one thing different each day. As you begin to experience your desired results, assess every area of your life, and make the necessary changes until you experience the more and better that you deserve.

Have you taken a trip on the insane train? Can you think of one thing that you should be doing differently? What will you commit to changing today?

To Blog…Nakeia